Soothing a broken heart is a delicate process, one that can be quite difficult in the journey of emotional recovery. You’re searching for ways to soothe a broken heart, and right now, you are exhausted enough to speak and emotionally drained, so you have decided to be quiet.
I know you are feeling helpless and constantly wondering how you’ll ever overcome this and move forward. It’s as though the silence around you is deafening, while your shattered heart simultaneously sinks into a void and pounds within your chest, wanting to escape. It’s undoubtedly a challenging place to be.
Experiencing the presence of someone in your life and then suddenly facing their absence can be really painful. Only your heart truly comprehends and feels the depth of this pain.
The path to soothing a broken heart is a complex one, it’s a journey of emotional healing that is different for everyone. But know that You will feel better soon.
1. Know that it’s okay to not be okay
Remember that it’s okay not to be okay. Don’t judge yourself so hard. Your feelings were real, and yes, they got hurt.
So, it’s okay to be angry, cry, hate yourself a bit, and feel like you were being played for being nice and real. Yes, it’s not okay to be treated this way, and yes, it’s not okay to be left alone with no closure. And yes, it’s okay to be confused and try to figure out what actually led to this phase.
This only shows how genuine of a person you are and how honestly you were involved. So it’s okay to feel low and experience it.
2. Let your emotions flow
Heartbreak is not the same for everyone, and it has no timeline.
Don’t stop yourself from releasing your emotions; they matter. You matter. You can release emotions in a lot of ways, painting, dancing, and my personal favourite is crying. Crying is the only form of releasing emotions, which is evident. It makes you feel like a weight has been lifted off your body.
Don’t be harsh on yourself and judge your journey and time of healing by saying something like, “I should be moving on by now,” and why do I take so much time to heal? Take all the time you need to heal and be nice to yourself.
3. Write down what you need at this time
To soothe a broken heart, make a list of what you need. Is it a vacation, a short break, some time alone, a favourite food item, or maybe grocery shopping? Or maybe learn something new or learn a new skill that can make you feel good about yourself. Whatever it is, do it.
Fulfilling your needs will make you realize that you only need yourself and how capable you are of fulfilling your own needs. This helps boost your self-worth. I am a big fan of taking breaks and relaxing when I go through tough emotional phases in my life. It gives me that time where I can only focus on myself and heal in silence.
4. Take a break and rest a lot
When you are in emotional pain, it is hard to focus on other areas of your life, so taking a break is a must. Take a break and rest; sleeping heals and cures fatigue; take lukewarm water showers; have beverages you like; cook a meal you enjoy eating with your loved ones.
Walk in nature and just sit in silence in the park, observe the world around you, and practice deep breathing to bring your attention back to the present moment. Or do nothing; you will eventually get over this feeling of doing nothing. It takes time, and you need to be patient with yourself.
5. Ask yourself these questions
Have you ever thought, What if everything works out and this person comes back to you? Then what?
Would you be healed enough to forgive them for breaking your heart? Would you be kind enough to take them back? would be grateful for a new start with them? These are some important questions you need to ask and think about, rather than learning ways to get an ex’s attention.
Ask yourself if you want to move away from your past or towards your future. These questions will give direction to your thoughts and help you make significant decisions.
6. To soothe a broken heart listen to your heart
Your heart is constantly telling you the truth, and you keep ignoring it. Yes, you loved them, and they did not. Your heart is constantly telling you that if your love, respect, and care are not enough, nothing ever will be. You were not put on this earth to please someone you love, but to be at ease with someone who loves you too.
People who make you believe that you are everything they want will never confuse you, put you in a painful situation alone, and leave. Only people who are partially interested in you and like to see you fall and embarrass yourself will do so.
No, you don’t have to be special. People you love are not special either. You chose them and made them your special person. This is how the heart makes choices.
Do not listen to these social media relationship coaches coaching you to get back someone who did not value you in the first place. Anytime you let people tell you how to work with your heart, you are disrespecting your intuition and inner wisdom.
7. Stay away from your source of pain
If it is possible, stay away from the source of your heartbreak.
If you live near each other, work together, or cannot avoid contact, try to limit the contact and leave them alone. If they are mature, they will understand and value your decision. If they are not, do not hesitate to block, delete, and unfollow them. Do not let them cause further damage to you.
Remember, they can’t cure you; only you can.
8. Forgive and let go
Forgiving is not easy, especially when it is about forgiving yourself. I have been there, where for days I kept asking myself, What did I do to deserve this? and Why do I make the same mistakes again? and letting go was a challenge, but then I reminded myself of things, and people had to let go of how liberating it was.
Now, I practice forgiving people and myself before I go to sleep, as I am still on my journey to become a person who doesn’t hold on to past emotions and words said by people. Practising forgiveness every day is making me more exposed to these emotions and making letting go easy for me.
9. You will feel better soon
Once you have accepted the new schedule and, above all, accepted that you cannot force people to be with you or in your life, you will eventually start to feel better. Yes, you will miss seeing them around and see them dating other people and looking happier. You will be happy for them and you will respect yourself a lot for overcoming heartbreaks and painful situations.
It may take time but I promise you, you will be taken care of by people who truly care for you and you will soon see it, feel it, and experience it. Trust the process and allow everything to unfold the way it is meant to.
Love
G
When not working, can usually be found reading a book, spending (perhaps a little too much) time meditating, practicing yog, or just vibing in the present moment like a mindfulness pro. And—despite claiming she knits very badly—she still picks up the needles now and then. Blogging to share her life learnings is her passion!