Today, here at yourpsychosis.com , I am sharing a process that I practiced on my journey of getting to know myself, and I still practice it as it reminds me to let go of any influence that may corrupt my true self-image.
- Silence your mind
- Accept and acknowledge your first thoughts
- Talk to yourself
- Become your own best friend
- It is okay to cut people out of your life
- Be grateful for your support system
1. To know yourself-Silence your mind
Meeting yourself is the most important day of your life, so you must cut the unnecessary noise first. It’s the best date you will ever have in your lifetime.
You need to start by just sitting in silence for a minute. In the first few seconds, you will notice noises, thoughts, and memories that will begin to play in your head nonstop.
This is where most of you will give up and start distracting yourself, which is an attempt to escape from experiencing the overwhelming emotions these memories bring.
Did you survive a minute?
Congratulations! Well done, you super-astral being!
Now, increase the minutes, and do not be afraid of your emotions. You must process these emotions and continue to sit in silence.
Nope!! I asked you to process the emotions, not grind them. (See, I told you I had been there, too.) It’s the most challenging part of getting to know yourself. It’s like a blind date in the dark.
I promise you that you will slowly find this silence comforting, and the pace of your thoughts will slow down. Silence is the only state where you can listen to your thoughts the loudest. These thoughts can be anything, from cheerful to full of anger, hurt, and pain.
Whatever your first thoughts are, note them down.
2. To know-yourself-Accept and acknowledge your first thoughts.
The most crucial part of getting to know yourself starts with acknowledging the thoughts you receive when accompanied by silence.
These thoughts are why you are who you are. You became this adulterated self, trying to run away and escape these thoughts.
For example, If your thoughts are painful, you become someone who conceals their pain by creating a world and following a lifestyle that keeps up with your mission to hide your pain. Not only this, you surround yourself with people who never encourage you to express this emotion of despair.
I call an unexpressed and unacknowledged emotion a stale emotion that stinks; hence, you need to get it out of your system. To get these emotions out, I recommend documenting your thoughts related to all your feelings. This helps you to analyze which thought needs to be focused on and how changing or replacing it will clear the way for you to reach and understand yourself better.
Documenting these first thoughts is liberating. I know for your lazy self, that sounds like a lot of work, planning, and strategizing. Hell yes!! It is.
You did the same to become who you are not, except that you did that unconsciously, and getting to know yourself is a conscious effort. Writing or documenting these thoughts is an excellent way to show yourself that you are ready to accept and acknowledge your emotions, which is powerful!
It will make you think about how, in an attempt not to confront a particular emotion that needed releasing, you instead took a path of unacceptance and hiding. You became someone you are not—a follower of sameness.
To me, sameness is a word that represents a state where everyone loses their unique self and becomes soulless copies of each other, stubborn enough not to confront their true selves and scared enough to stand out. It’s home to a herd!
3. To know yourself-Talk to yourself
I love talking to myself, but I enjoy listening to myself more. Talking to yourself is the best way for you to connect with yourself. To make it more fun, interview yourself and document this interview. You can use a voice recorder, a notepad, or a video recorder to record this interview.
Get curious and learn how to ask quality questions. Ask as many questions as you want to ask yourself.
Ask yourself: Who are you?
What makes you unique?
What are your likes and dislikes?
What do want to change about yourself?
What are your values and beliefs?
What makes you happy?
What makes you sad?
What makes you feel peaceful?
Listen to yourself; document your values, beliefs, fears, traumas, lessons learned, weaknesses, strengths, etc. Play this interview in your head a bazillion times.
Only to realize you have been running away from yourself all your life because you did not believe in how this person (you) viewed you.
Yes, You are a Badass!!!!!
I am glad you are reading this and smiling. 🙂
4. To know yourself-Become your own best friend.
Yourself is cool! If you think it is not. Presume it is.
It has this badass personality and possesses powers like intuition. It’s capable of infinite imagination when you start to accept it, which is beautiful. Being your own best friend is fantastic. You can talk to yourself any time; you don’t need a phone, and it always gives you the best advice.
Your self is trustworthy and will always protect you. It will always support, appreciate, encourage, and care for you—someone who lives with you forever. It will witness your growth. And Go out with yourself.
So chill in nature, trek mountains, dance in the rain, smell flowers, paint, laugh out loud, try fresh food, sunbathe, and look at the Moon and stars with yourself. Let you and yourself talk to older people, learn new things, play with children, and see the world that embraces you for being yourself together. Be kind and compassionate to yourself.
Being your own best friend is the healthiest relationship ever.
Become your badass best friend!!!!!!!!
5. To know yourself-It is okay to cut people out of your life
When you know yourself, you become magical, which will upset those who do not believe in magic. Let go of such people and situations. Yes, they will talk badly about you and make you doubt yourself. You know you deserve it; how dare you think of leaving the herd? Hah!
So what do you do now?
Be bold and cut them off anyway. Once you cut out unhealthy people and situations, you will realize they never supported your idea of being you and constantly discouraged you from expressing your true self.
They never understood you; all they ever wanted was to limit you.
But why would they do this?
Because it frightens them to see you become who you are and that you will no longer need them to validate you. It’s an existential crisis for them. I know it’s sad. Also, I don’t care. Haha. It’s okay to be mean to protect your authentic self. They do not matter! You do.
6. To know yourself-Be grateful for your support system
Getting support from another being and having mentors to seek out is great.
But recognizing that you are supported at every moment of your life by a support system is enlightening.
This support system keeps us alive in every moment of our journey through life silently and never quits on us.
It is Mother Nature. I am grateful for every breath I take and know I am helped. Knowing my life is supported fills me with gratitude. The first support must come from acknowledging nature’s role in supporting your life.
Expressing gratitude to yourself and your support system will encourage you to keep up with yourself and nurture yourself to grow and recognize your true potential. Once you start recognizing, you will be guided to the source that provides you with that support. It could be a book, a blog post, a podcast, a movie, a speech, a song, poetry, or a newly developed interest. Every breath is a reminder that this universe supports you, and that’s all the support you need and will ever want.
Hug trees, celebrate rain, stay in nature, write songs for yourself, write a poem, or record a voice note for yourself and the sun, the moon, the earth, the mountains, the fire, the far, the oceans, and so on, thanking them for their infinite support.
Practicing gratitude humbles me and forces me to focus on the positive, infinite support system I experience daily.
Getting to know yourself is worth it. Are you ready to get to know yourself?
Love
G
When not working, can usually be found reading a book, spending (perhaps a little too much) time meditating, practicing yog, or just vibing in the present moment like a mindfulness pro. And—despite claiming she knits very badly—she still picks up the needles now and then. Blogging to share her life learnings is her passion!