How To Beat Suicidal Thoughts With Minimal Support?

Good Morning, Astral souls!

So you are again alone in your room, Lights off, overwhelmed with Suicidal thoughts. You now scrolling through your phone to find one soul you can trust and with whom you can share how miserable you are feeling right now.
You start dialing all the possible numbers on your phone, and no one answers.

You then search all the content in the world to understand why you have these heavy knots inside your stomach and a numbness that has made you blind to see and feel anything good around you. You don’t feel good and have no one you can go to and ask for support of any kind. You have already tried everything. And now you have reached a point where you start contemplating your thoughts about taking your life away.

You subconsciously are waiting for Someone to return your call or find help to pull you out of this dark place. But people have failed you, and more importantly, you have failed yourself; you are tired of this life and angry that you have no support system that can help you survive these suicidal thoughts.

But nope!! You are not that lucky and are stuck alone in this phase.

So what do you do?

First, you need to accept that being alone was an unconscious choice you made. You never build long-lasting bonds that could help and support you endlessly. I know you tried and got left alone. So, You must learn to be sad and overcome it alone.

You need to understand that people around you have their challenges, and sometimes they may not be able to know and understand what’s hurting you. You cannot expect people to show up and save you.

I know it’s human to look for support, but let me tell you honestly that any help you seek from outside can only support you with what you have chosen to tell and show them. Your support system would never truly learn what you need support with as you will never be able to articulate your deepest pain, shame and hurt to them.

The only person with whom you can do this with complete trust is yourself, my friend, and no one else. Be your ally and make life your partner. It’s liberating when you know you do not need anyone and can always count on yourself. It’s hard, but it’s still better than being disappointed by others.

1. Validate the reasons that make you think of these thoughts

When you validate your thoughts, you are accepting your feelings. Validating your reasons for making decisions or taking action is necessary to ensure that you make well-informed and rational choices.

Ask yourself why you are taking this particular step. What is it that’s not working for you in your life?

Is it your family life? Work life? Love life? Financial life? Health or any other area of your life? It could be a bit of all these, or you cannot grasp it. Then, align these reasons with your core beliefs and what you want to achieve.

You will learn that, in most cases, you are waiting for things to happen, support to come to me, answers to me, love to go to me, money to come to you, and all you are doing is nothing.

You are exhausted from waiting and merely surviving, thinking you will thrive once all these things come to you. Learn how to put more actions out there and see how your life changes.

2. Attack your thoughts

Put all of you in this fight against your negative thoughts.

Do you want to die because you did not find love? Then become loved, practice, and do everything to become so loveable that love comes to you naturally.

Is it a financial problem? Develop side hustles, learn new skills, do part-time jobs, and become a money magnet.

Is it depression? Look yourself in the eye and tell that depression to go and find peace somewhere else, as you will not let it stay in your life.

Is it that you have shame? Face it, own your truth, and be brave enough to voice it.

Attack your thoughts with power and confidence.

Your thoughts should only hold your fulfilment in them and nothing else. Attack them so rigorously that they break and have no option but to leave your mind. Use affirmation, meditation, positive thinking, healthy food, activities, songs, and whatever works best for you, but do not lose without fighting.

3. Ask yourself, are you exhausted due to fighting or surviving?

This Question will take you on a path of understanding that you are not tired of fighting but surviving. Of course, Survival is Important. If you survive, today is when you will thrive tomorrow.

But the repeated survival techniques you live with, only to stay alive daily, have exhausted you. Don’t make peace with your adversaries, and do not convince yourself that you can do nothing about it.

To change and break these patterns. You have to approach your life differently and start fighting. Fighting is engaging in the act of getting ready for a war. To fight, decide -what is it that you are fighting against? Once you know what adversary you are fighting. Fight to overcome and destroy the adversary.

4. Unmess your mental structure

Accepting that you are created and supported by the whole universe is a thought that puts you in a favourable mental structure. Rather than fighting this life, be its ally. Life is not your enemy; everything in this universe supports your life. The oxygen you take, the food, the water—life is always giving you, and you are taking it from it mindlessly.

A messed-up mental structure needs deep cleaning and organization to have new, fresh thoughts enter it and bring it more clarity.

Accepting that your mental structure is messy is the first step.

Practising mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and help you detach from studies that do not serve you well. Decluttering your home and workplace can promote mental clarity. Consider taking regular breaks from social media and the news. Write down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences to recognize your patterns. Practice spirituality and meditation. I know this is a lot of work, and why do you need to do all this when everyone else can have it easy?

It’s because you are the one who does not have it easy. So you will have to put in that extra effort to make it easy for yourself.

Also, let me assure you that no one has it easy. Absolute no one until they chose to make it easy.

Determine what matters most to you in your life.

Become your priority.

5. Put your thoughts on paper

Write a word or a sentence, and then permit yourself to express what has been piling up inside you. Practice this weekly, and then you will see that releasing these hurtful emotions will make you feel light.

I recently encountered a hurtful incident in my life, and I wrote all the details on paper. I then tore the paper and burned it.

It made me feel heard and acknowledged by myself.

After this, I wrote a self-assuring letter to myself. In this letter, I addressed my future self, who keeps practising self-validation and compassion towards herself.

I often use an affirmation: I own my life and take responsibility for its happiness. I am a big deal, and I matter.

6. Watch Inspiring survivor stories of people surviving Auschwitz

Auschwitz was one of World War II’s most notorious concentration and extermination camps.

Reading about the unimaginable adversity and how the survivors endured extreme suffering. Watching their stories reminds us that even in the bleakest moments, there is always a glimmer of hope and that the human spirit can endure and overcome immense challenges.

I found my source of inspiration and strength in psychologist Dr. Edith Eger, one of the last remaining Holocaust survivors. Watching her story and reading her books introduced me to the power of my thoughts and choices. Thank you, Dr. Edith Eger, for sharing your story and giving me hope.

So many survivors of Auschwitz have become witnesses to history, sharing their stories to ensure and give hope to anyone who thinks they do not stand a chance in front of their life’s adversities.

7. Shock your belief system

When you create an environment where you isolate yourself from everyone and build a wall that others can’t climb, you reinforce your belief that you are alone. When the reality is that you are not alone,

Go out, surround yourself with people who understand you, Be honest about how you feel, and let go of all the isolation you can easily break by having a conversation, asking for long-due forgiveness, or conversing with yourself or Someone you have been denying closure.

Once you keep shocking your old belief system, it has to absorb and learn new, empowering ways of dealing with the thoughts of taking your life away. Shock your belief system like a boss and let it know you made it; it has to listen to you and not vice versa.

8. Take up a 7-day challenge

The best way to live is to be in a constant state of curiosity and excitement.

Ask yourself: What will happen if I run for 20 minutes for the next seven days? What will happen if I eat nourishing food for the next seven days? What would happen if I listened to 10 minutes of positive affirmations or practised sitting in silence for 10 minutes for the next seven days? What if I go to a concert or participate in an activity and put myself out there fearlessly? Pick your what-ifs and do them for the next seven days.

Don’t wait for Monday for once.

You can eventually take on more considerable challenges once you shift your thoughts and develop a mindset that will help you overcome bigger challenges.

Now, get out, move, survive this, thrive on it, and let yourself see another day. Get excited to see what the future holds for you.

9. Rewrite your dreams

When we are children, we rewrite our dreams almost every week. I remember wanting to become a doctor one day, a fashion designer the other day, and a bird on some actual good days. But when our adversities shatter these dreams, we become hopeless.

I want to ask you: Why?
Why did you stop dreaming and let those fearful thoughts of never fulfilling them take over your mind?
I know you are hopeless and can’t become who you want to be. But what if I tell you you can become something much better than that?

Reflect on your dead dreams and ask yourself: Did you strive for them enough? Were they meaningful to you? Were you brave enough to let go of them to take care of your loved ones? If yes, make them come true and make this your purpose for the rest of your life. And if you think your dreams have now lost their significance, write a new one.

My new dream is to build a community where you feel heard, seen, and valued, and I will fulfil it.

Love

G