Good Morning, Astral souls!
Walking away is an exhausting moment when the one walking out leaves, with no choice but to choose themselves, their peace and never look back. After you decide to walk away, the most challenging part of staying away starts, and I know it’s not easy, so what do you do next?
1. First, Allow yourself to Grieve
Walking away is impossible if you do not grieve and process the wave of hurtful emotions.
The undecided mind can make it challenging to stick to your decision to walk away. When you don’t accept that you will never go back again, no matter what, you invite hope into your life.
It is a dangerous attempt to keep yourself in a state of mind where you are unsure of your decision.
It may lead you to forgive someone who keeps coming back and winning you over by putting in minimal effort and sometimes with zero effort. And you may fall into the same cycle of tolerating the disrespectful behavior repeatedly.
This lack of acceptance pushes you back to the same pattern. Since you never accepted the loss and kept hoping for these people to return, you don’t grieve and process the emotion of losing someone you had once decided to let go of.
Acceptance is a decisive act. Accepting is a way to show yourself that you respect the decisions of others and yourself, and you break the pattern that will make you encounter similar experiences in the future. So, grieve, Cry, sleep, isolate yourself, take a long break, get lost and do whatever it takes for you to respect your decision.
2. Focus on your healing
While grieving the loss of losing yourself in a toxic bond, Start working on your healing.
Resting and relaxing can help you recover from the exhaustion of detaching from a burdensome situation.
Sleep, go offline and do not converse with or justify your act to anyone.
Think of yourself and keep taking baby steps to heal. Know that we all will die one day, and so will the person who scarred you for life. If you wish the best for them, be happy for them. Kill the ego that you could have made them happy, or they lost a great human being like you. Remember, they did not lose you, and It’s not your job to make anyone happy.
The only person who you need to focus on is -YOU!
Once you have taken your time to heal and understand the damage you did to yourself. You will become wiser and respect yourself more for enduring the tough times. Healing is not a one-time process; it’s an ongoing process, so it is your responsibility to protect yourself and be focused on your healing.
3. Have a direction in your life
When you Walk away, showing people you can walk away is unimportant. What’s important here is to show yourself that you have not lost direction and are also not afraid of finding a new one.
You are showing yourself that you deserve better treatment and will not stay or continue walking in the direction where you are not respected.
Of course, it hurts to walk away as it happens to be the last step leading to the first step towards a different path. An unknown way that is unfamiliar, and of course, it is scary at first. You do not know where this path will take you or how the next person you meet will be.
Frankly, No one ever knows this. And I think you do not have to know this. All you need to know is that you will always be there for yourself and never walk away from yourself again. Remind yourself of this and be bold to walk in the direction of your choice.
It’s your life; you choose where you want to go and grow. It’s about you!
4 . Have healthy standards
When you invest your time in yourself and do not waste it on others., you set a standard for your time. It forces people to value your availability and time.
People treat you how you let them treat you. Take accountability for yourself and how you would like to be treated. When you settle for less, you get less.
After walking away and staying at it, You are sending out a loud message that you will only stay and be present where you are valued and appreciated.
Walking away creates an abundance mindset. It shows people that you may love them, but you don’t need them to be content. You must show yourself and the people in your circle your healthy standards and how you only appreciate and get involved in healthy relationships.
Once you set a healthy standard for yourself by investing in yourself, you will be surprised to see how you can say NO easily and walk away much more quickly from unhealthy situations now. Keep a reminder on your phone for the new healthy standards you have set for yourself and revisit them whenever you have the urge to lower them for anyone you meet in future.
5. Believe in the forward movement
Any movement is a movement. Whether you like it or not, you are moving forward every moment. You may choose to stay and be stuck wherever you are, but that doesn’t change the reality.
Moving super slow is okay, but fighting moving forward is a waste of time.
Refrain from wasting your time. Believe that there are good things in store if you choose and respect yourself. Never take back or go back to a liar and a manipulator.
Move on, end these situations, and cut such people out. No one changes for anyone ever. The only change you can expect is from yourself.
Trust me, I have returned to narcissistic and toxic friends and had to leave them repeatedly for the same reasons I had left them the first time. History repeats itself.
6. Give up the idea of Revenge
If you are walking away to take Revenge on someone or a toxic person, thinking your absence will change them. Please stop and ask yourself – Why did you walk away?
A revenge mindset is unhealthy, and you will exhaust yourself on planning and plotting Revenge.
It won’t even make you happy. If it did, you would still be in the past situation. You know better, want better, and believe there is better out there. Ask anyone who has successfully walked away from a toxic set of people- what is their biggest regret? And they will tell you that it is: why did I not walk away earlier?
Seek peace, forgive and let go! Gift yourself the freedom you walked away for.
Love
G
When not working, can usually be found reading a book, spending (perhaps a little too much) time meditating, practicing yog, or just vibing in the present moment like a mindfulness pro. And—despite claiming she knits very badly—she still picks up the needles now and then. Blogging to share her life learnings is her passion!