What can you do if you are being bullied at the workplace?

Frankly, if the victim outnumbers the bullies, there is nothing you can do. I also know from experience that not all of us can leave our jobs as we do not have a safety net to fall back on. So, let me break down how you can survive if you choose to stay in a toxic workplace environment and also how you can recover from a traumatic workplace bullying experience once you have decided to quit.

Let’s first discuss what do you do if you decide to stay.

1. Take a break

It’s important to know that you must build mental strength to survive. The first thing you need to do is take a break or a small vacation. Apply for a week’s leave or a long weekend. Clear your mind. Stop multitasking at work. For example, if you have taken too many initiatives and projects, withdraw your name from them or step down.

You can say someone else would be better for it and even suggest the names of the people you think would be a better fit. Do it gracefully.

Relax, and do not worry about missing out on opportunities. If you live and are mentally fit, more opportunities will come. Think of it like saving your energy for a more significant project. Prioritize your mental health. Letting go of some of the tasks and appointments off your plate is okay. Do not fret over it.

2. Make a plan

In this break, devote some time to make a blueprint of how you will shift your focus and approach things at work from the next working day onwards. In case you need to change your attitude towards certain peers or anyone not deserving of your energy and ideas. Please do it. Only you can decide what is good for you and who is good for you. Make that decision and stick to it.

3. Recognize and document the bullying

Be aware of the signs of bullying, such as repetitive negative behaviours and document specific incidents with dates, times, locations, and any witnesses present. This documentation can provide evidence and support your case if you have to report the bullying.

4. Talk to someone you trust

Share your experience with a trusted colleague, supervisor, peer or mentor. They can offer advice, support, or intervene on your behalf. If you have peers who are professionals in other departments or your team, talk to them.

Reach out to a mentor who is helpful and talk with them about how their journey is going and discuss the challenges you are facing. Do not complain; instead, ask for suggestions and feedback. It will help you understand if there is a problem, and in most cases, you will be surprised to know that most people like you have or are undergoing similar experiences.

Be receptive to all information or feedback they share. You do not have to take it all that seriously. But It will surely bring you peace of mind that nothing is wrong with you.

5. Talk to your Manager and talk to the person who is giving you a tough time

With my years-long experience, I know that it is usually the same person. Most managers will not be supportive as they do not know how to help you, mainly because there is no problem with you.

In most cases, they only understand what you are going through if you speak up and present your worries to them. Let them know you are receptive to feedback. If they think you are weak in any area. Ask for their support. Tell them -I need your support. Be directive so they can help you better.

For example- I would appreciate it if you could share any feedback directed toward me privately and not in front of others.

6. Keep it transactional, and keep reminding yourself of your qualities

Stop participating in any conversation which is not work-related.

Do not be a part of a group that indulges in Gossip. It’s okay to be alone than to be in a bad company. Avoid office parties, get-togethers, and social events if you can. Mute those office chats if you can. Detach from the Workplace and keep a neutral approach and attitude towards peers. Remember that you need to value your peace more than

anything.

Indulge yourself in your hobbies, go for long weekend walks, Engage in activities that reduce stress, such as exercising, practising mindfulness, and spending time with supportive friends and family. Have a life outside of the Workplace and celebrate your small successes timely.

7. Start working on your backup

To boost your performance at the current job or to find a new job. Up your game. Dealing with workplace bullying can be challenging.

Start saving more to create a safety net in case you need to leave suddenly. Apply for courses to upskill yourself for a better position in your next job. Keep working on yourself and your confidence. Apply for jobs and keep preparing for interviews to work at your dream workplace.

Give yourself a date and a time, and tell yourself; I will be out of this place on this particular day. Be sure to work seriously towards your backup plan.

8. Reach out for support outside and within your Workplace

Contact your support networks like friends, family, or professional counselling services. Sharing your experience with others who can provide emotional support and guidance can be helpful.

How to Report severe bullying?

If the bullying persists or escalates, file a formal complaint with your human resources department or higher-level management. Please provide them with your documented evidence and describe the impact the bullying has had on you and your work.

1. Reach out to HR for a one-on-one discussion

Let HR know how confidential this is and how you feel. Talking to an HR is the first step. As we discussed before, sometimes you will be surprised to know how many similar complaints for a specific bully already exist. Who knows, you may be the last one or the first one they take into account seriously. If nothing, I promise you will at least feel better.

2. Know and follow company policies

Familiarize yourself with your organization’s policies regarding bullying and harassment. Follow the appropriate procedures for reporting incidents and seek guidance on effectively addressing the issue.

3. Seek legal advice if necessary

 In some cases, consulting with an employment lawyer may be necessary. Remember that every situation is unique, and the appropriate action may vary. It’s your responsibility to assess your safety and well-being when deciding how to address workplace bullying.

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