• What is Victim mentality?
• How do we recognize victim mentality?
• Do you ask- why me? A lot.
• You replay Past stories in your mind.
• You don’t think highly of Yourself
• You resolve in Anger.

Being a victim is a sad and hurtful state to be in.

I mean, it truly sucks.

The reality is that it’s not all your fault; things happen, traumatic incidents take place, life is unfair, and not all of us are born to perfect parents and healthy environments.

I understand and know from my experience that most of the hurt caused to you, that scarred you for life, was not in your control, but stopping to put yourself through that one painful incident over and over again is. I know it is. It’s a choice to be brave or stay as it is. Surviving when necessary but not thriving when you can is heartbreaking.

To remain stuck in the past and pick up a habit of complaining about not being a Hero/heroine of your life is your fault.

What is Victim mentality?

Victim mentality is when you think that all the bad things keep happening to you as they do, and you keep asking yourself why— tired of why, followed by a series of self-hatred and long self-pity days.

I know you have, but were you ready to accept the honest answer to this- Why?

I’ll be sure to answer this for you.

Nope. No.

Accept it!

You love and enjoy the sympathy and attention you get for being a victim. This attention does not always have to come from outside. It could be attention that you only give to yourself after you have experienced something terrible. For example, A heavy self-care regime posts a breakup or learning something new as you do not feel enough.

You never progressed and found yourself to be a victim over and over and over again.

You continue to feel affected by the negative actions of others, choosing to stay stuck in the lack, attracting a lot of predators and narcissistic/psychopathic toxic people into your life, and seeking poor relationships because you’re “used” to being a victim.

You know that not being a victim is uncomfortable. You know that changing your story would take a lot of work, and who wants to do all this hard work when you can live your entire life being a victim? Right?

So, you avoid Confronting your lack of accountability and taking responsibility to make the changes because then you will have to accept the reality.

The good news is that, like all other bad habits, you can overcome the Victim Mentality, too. First, we need to recognize what it is to have a Victim mentality.

How do we recognize victim mentality?

With a Victim mentality, everything seems negative; it makes your mind blind to recognizing anything positive. The negativity is so powerful that you are unhappy about being alive.

To recognize, start noticing how often you say something negative about yourself or others in a day. How often do you watch something on TV and say this is why the world is not a great place to live now? How often do you complain about your work, people at work, or your friends doing good in life?

The answers will introduce you to the understanding that you are a negative person who, deep down, wants positive things but fails to recognize and give a positive outlook to people and situations in your life.

Again, I am not saying you should only see the positive in everything, but I am asking you to notice when you choose to see only the negative in all beings and situations.

1.You ask yourself- Why Me? A lot

You do ask, why me? A lot. And you know that!!

It starts with I did everything right this time, so why did this happen to me again? Why can’t I get what everyone gets quickly? Why am I not seen? Why do I attract negative experiences and people?

These whys are rehearsed so many times. It becomes your opening and closing act. You become so busy in these acts that you forget to audition for the great show of taking responsibility for your life’s play.

I know what these whys are and that the only way to eliminate them is to accept that it happened to me because I let it happen out of my habit of being a victim. Next time, please remember that when you ask these whys, you are in a state where you find yourself powerless and weak and feel you have no control over your life. Why do you want to avoid owning your power.

2.You replay your past stories a lot

Imagine yourself in prison for committing the crime of giving away control of your life to others.

You then completed your sentence of a year of asking yourself why, and every time you wondered why, you told yourself a story that starts with blaming others and ends with blaming others.

You did not know better, so you committed this crime a bazillion times and remained a prisoner of your past all these years. This story becomes your life story, and you then notice that you only meet people who have the same stories to tell, and this gives you more confidence to believe in your I am a victim story and find nothing wrong with it.

3.You don’t think highly of Yourself

Remember, people who encourage your victim mentality and are regular guests at your pity parties will never help you, as they also find comfort in your stories.

You don’t even believe you can change your story and be the hero of your life.

You think that your happiness and wellness are other people’s responsibility and that they must constantly assure you of how amazing you are. Your validation comes from your external environment. You pity yourself and are just incapable of seeing yourself as powerful. You do not even know how to validate yourself and your feelings.

4.You always resolve in anger

You hold anger and let it decay all your great beliefs slowly and the confidence you have in you. Empty souls are always angry and upset about not meeting people or situations that could have made them feel full.

Nowadays, the population of people with a Victim mentality is increasing as the number of people comforting and finding comfort with this mentality is also growing.

Trust me, beating your victim mentality and coming out of it is more fun and exciting than repeating the exact WHYs.

Love

G