Good Morning, Astral souls!
If you’re here, it means you trusted me when I said beating that victim mentality is way more fun and exciting than endlessly whining about the whys. You can break free — all it takes is a little awareness and some serious confidence work. Ready to learn how to crush that victim mindset like a total badass? Let’s do this.
1. Taking accountability
I know it’s not easy. It never is, especially when you have never practised or attempted it. But think of it as trying a new cuisine with good reviews. I mean, I love this soul snack called taking accountability.
It has treated my addiction to blaming others’ conditions. And you don’t have to start big; start small- for example, I was once late for work and reached late for a big meeting. Instead of blaming the traffic and the slow Uber cab, I Surprised everyone by taking accountability for being late as I left home late. I also said I understood that I could have made it on time if I had planned better. I learned a lot today. Thank you for waiting for me, everyone.
Oh! I know what you are thinking now. Most of you are like, but my boss will fire me.
Welcome to another episode of My Life Story on the popular victim channel. Yes!! This is a story your victim mentality and your victim mentality communities are telling you.
I have taken accountability for such instances in more complex situations, and trust me, It has been valued, appreciated, and received well. We all know when someone lies or blames others or us, and we don’t like them, but we become them when we have to take responsibility for our acts. Silly world!
Take that accountability. Try it -It’s fun.
2. Ask a lot of How’s?
Power comes from asking more How’s. How can I get to know my beautiful self? How can I change my story? How can I get a break from this cycle? How did they do it despite such a traumatic past? How would it feel to be on a different side of the story? How would it feel to be a receiver?
For example, when you meet someone successful, rather than asking yourself why I am not successful like this person, ask the person—how did you do it? How did you become this successful? You will be surprised at how your attitude will switch from being a victim to a more secure one.
How- is a word used by beings who have accepted their reality and have decided to change it. ” How” is for powerful. How is Powerful!!!!!
3.Build Confidence by Creating Small Goals
When you create small, short-term goals, you are preparing yourself to start putting in the effort for something achievable. It will give you a sense of accomplishment.
Now, once you get introduced to accomplishing goals, that feeling of wow, I can achieve things and control the outcomes in my life. You will start enjoying setting goals and completing them.
Exercising and setting daily or weekly goals will make you realize that only you can change your story. It will show you how your life will change simply by taking one step at a time with positive intentions.
It will boost your confidence, and this gained confidence will add more positive energy to attract bigger goals. This way, you will learn to enjoy reaching goals, having fun, and being sure that the result will be positive, which puts you in a position of being the hero/heroine of your life.
The certainty of knowing the result and exactly how you wanted it, increases your confidence.
4.Be giving to others (“show love for others”)
You can start this practice by saying something positive when you want to say something negative.
For Example-In an exchange of perspectives and opinions, instead of saying I don’t agree with you to someone you don’t like, try saying thank you for sharing that perspective with me. It gives me a lot to think about. It puts you in power.
Another example would be to congratulate people on their achievements. The act puts you in a more powerful position than feeling a lack of hostility.
Please take a look at past mistakes. Put it behind you- I believe and know from my experiences that life would be boring without errors.
Life would not be enjoyable if everything worked out how we wanted. We would not learn and grow. We would not evolve. So, be kind to yourself for making a mistake or bazillion mistakes. After all, we all are living this life for the first time.
No one has a blueprint for their life. And be kind to others for their mistakes, too.
I know it isn’t easy, but ask yourself how long you want others to take charge of your life. It’s your life and not theirs. Avoid letting their mistake be your life story—every day before you sleep. Forgive yourself and others and take all the power back.
5.Make a gratitude list
A gratitude list requires you to think about things you are grateful to have in your life.
Practising gratitude leads you to think more about the positive experiences in your life. This way, you will develop a habit of noticing positive things happening.
Slowly, Finding positive experiences will become natural to you, and even if nothing positive happens, you will now have developed a habit of finding positives.
Wohooooooooooooooo. It feels good already!! Isn’t it?
Rise and Tell yourself daily- I claim my power back as I am no longer a victim of my past. I want you to know that of all the reasons not to want to be a victim again, the first reason is “YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.”
Love
G
When not working, can usually be found reading a book, spending (perhaps a little too much) time meditating, practicing yog, or just vibing in the present moment like a mindfulness pro. And—despite claiming she knits very badly—she still picks up the needles now and then. Blogging to share her life learnings is her passion!