Good Morning, Astral souls!
Why walking away is so powerful and yet so difficult. This is because as emotional beings, we intensely desire to be liked.
Expecting to be accepted and appreciated, we put our time and energy into situations and humans we desire.
But no matter how wise, intelligent and careful we are. We do end up meeting some unbalanced people in our lives. Some of these will need help understanding and respecting your boundaries; some of these people are Clingy, insecure and require a lot of attention from you, and some people are just cruel and seek to take control of your power and the boundaries you have set for yourself.
These people are takers, and they come uninvited into your life. They quickly see that you are polite and cannot say No.
They also know you lack direction, so manipulating and distracting you is easy. The only value they see in you is that you are helpful to them. They see your time as less valuable and will waste it.
Walking away is a powerful way to Value yourself and learn to call off such situations ships, Relationships, and friendships where you are not respected. Not everyone you meet necessarily has to value you, but that does not mean they disrespect you.
Walking away includes blocking, deleting, unfollowing, letting go of people and planning the future without these people in your life. It is a courageous act.
The moment you decide to walk away
I grew up with people who were insecure and highly dependent on me for their validation. I could not say No; I had no direction and had fragile boundaries. I was a helpful source and an over giver; I trusted everyone I met and believed everyone quickly. Takers seek such humans.
I went over the same patterns of being left alone, manipulated, lied to, gaslighted, and emotionally used. I had no choice but to walk away.
But for some of us, walking away is a well-thought-out act when you have invested in someone or something with everything you have. It is usually the last step, a call out to end a drama, a fight and a situation that one cannot resolve anymore. It’s a decision most people make after going over and trying everything they can to save a position. It’s a, I am out of here, and a that’s it moment!!
The only two things you need to know after making this powerful decision is to:
Ask yourself, have you stopped Denying yourself better ?
Think about it: What can you do with the time you spend going back and forth with these toxic people? Think about it harder.
You could utilize it to work out, travel, read more books, learn to save and invest your money, start a side hustle, and educate yourself.
By constantly wasting time chasing empty bonds, you show yourself and others that you don’t deserve better and do not even know what better looks like. Accepting less becomes your thing.
You will notice how you are okay denying going out on a great date with a better human being. You will eat junk, drink, smoke, wait for these toxic people to change and do everything that makes you feel better. But it is not making you better.
So, Stop it!!!!
Stop denying things to yourself that you need and would make you grow. Practice accepting compliments, healthy people, happy emotions, joyous bonds, loving relationships, and great love and celebrate yourself for making better choices.
I have spent years forgiving myself for denying myself everything great I was offered and deserved but let go as I was busy chasing what was not for me. I learned how to be open and receptive to all the greatness. I recently read an article by Abigail Brenner M.D. on Toxic people. Please check it out to understand how toxic describes interactions where boundaries are often blurred where individuals themselves and/or their behaviors are felt to be difficult, challenging, demanding, often adversarial.
Remember, It’s okay to be Indifferent
When you start walking away from places, people and situations which are not suitable for you. You will come across as rude to people who do not respect your boundaries.
Remind yourself that It’s okay to be harsh than stay where you are not valued, and your standards are seen as your weakness. Be nice to everyone, but notice how they treat you back and set firm boundaries.
Trust me, people with healthy boundaries will not call you rude. The only people who will use this word to define you are invaders who have failed to invade your boundaries after a bazillion attempts.
Never fret if someone doesn’t like you. You do not want to be appreciated by anyone who only accepts you when you lower your standards for them. You do not have to stay in such a place just to be liked. The only place you need to stay in is -In your power.
Love
G
When not working, can usually be found reading a book, spending (perhaps a little too much) time meditating, practicing yog, or just vibing in the present moment like a mindfulness pro. And—despite claiming she knits very badly—she still picks up the needles now and then. Blogging to share her life learnings is her passion!